So, we’ve discussed the ways of staying clear from the friend zone and we’ve gone over the art of conversation. Now it’s time to think about another important part of every high-intensity romance:  mastering the art of seduction.

Seduction is all about the long game.  You’ll need to invest the time and energy into utilizing every skillset in your arsenal, including humour, wit and charm.

It’s also about being attentive but not coming off as cheesy or desperate.  And sometimes, it’s about “faking it till you make it”, especially when it comes to conveying confidence.

You might not feel like you’re the best catch out there. You may question yourself at every turn or wonder why she’s into you.  You’ll need to learn to move beyond all self-doubt because one of the biggest romance-killers is insecurity.

Instead, you’ll want to work on charm and sophistication.  You’ll win her over easily when you present yourself as someone who is more than worthy: you’re absolutely irresistible.

Here’s how:

1: Dress the Part

A well-groomed man is attractive to women. Not only does it show her that you take care of yourself, but it also tells her that you put effort into looking your best for her.

You want to dress smartly and learn what kind of clothing suits your frame.  Don’t choose anything too loud.  You want to highlight your masculinity while looking trendy.

2:  Slow & Steady Wins the Race

When it comes to the art of seduction, it’s all about taking your time with the woman of your dreams.  Go slow, be thoughtful and caring. A woman wants to feel protected and safe.

Even the most independent women on earth want to know that their man will take care of them so be aware of how she’s feeling and make sure she’s always comfortable. 

3:  Give her your full attention

Confident men know that to play hard to get is a game left for amateurs.  Instead, shower her with attention so she feels respected and needed.

Flirt with her, be playful and make her feel as though she’s the only woman in the world.  Never, ever pay another woman more attention on a date.

The objective is to make her feel so special that all her own insecurities are tossed aside.

4: Be Romantic

Create the perfect date by choosing the right setting.  Go the extra mile. For example, if you are taking her out for dinner consider choosing an intimate table at a bistro and order a bottle of her favorite wine.

Avoid the loud, bustling bar scene and instead focus on settings that allow you to get to know one another.

5: Be Attentive

You need to make sure you are truly listening to what she is willing to share with you. Ask questions, go beyond surface conversation (I know, I’ve mentioned this already but it’s incredibly important).

Don’t come off too strong with personal questions until you’ve learned what she is comfortable sharing but at the same time, don’t be afraid to ask her things about herself that allow you to know what makes her tick. 

6: Get Closer
Look for natural opportunities to get closer. Whether it’s the chance to sit closer to her at dinner or to take her for a walk where you can hold her hand, you should always be on the lookout for the perfect chance to flirt and be playful.

Conclusion

Finding that special someone takes time and effort. You need to commit to the long-game and understand that real love takes hard work but it’ll certainly pay off in the end.

Don’t beat yourself up over failed dates.  The more you put yourself out there and the more experience you gain, the easier it will be to feel confident and comfortable on future dates.

The truth is: practice makes perfect when it comes to the art of dating.

Don’t give up.  Whether you’re new to the dating scene or not, you have everything it takes to become a charming, attractive and unforgettable date.  Believe in yourself and that you are worthy because you are.

The key is to pay attention to the signals she puts out, work towards engaging in deep conversations that lead to forming a strong connection and never be afraid to let her know how you feel.

You’ve got this, dude. Now go find the love of your life!